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October 31st - Busy Halloween Times
How is everyone? I’m sorry for not posting before now, but life has been busy and constantly evolving… leaving me with a hard time finding things I want to express in a medium like this. It’s Halloween day! And I’ve got my third Halloween party in the last week to go to tonight, so times are high on the celebrating…
In general, things have been just rolling along here. Everyone’s so happy this weekend because we finally have a holiday from school. Thursday, Friday and Monday are all class-free, so many of the international students are traveling around to various places in Japan. I might have done that too, but… The reason we have this holiday is because it’s school festival weekend! People from America (including me) might have a hard time imagining what this kind of festival might be about, but in Japanese schools it’s quite an important event for student life. At Nanzan for example, all the student clubs and organizations on campus (of which there are many many fairly serious ones - clubs are what students do here as far as extra-curricular activities go) set up some kind of booth or area in a classroom to celebrate something. Many have games, some have more informational and showy type sessions. For example, the Coffee Hour club I’ve helped with a lot, which strives to bring Japanese students and international students together, set up a room as what they call “Cafe de World”, where they’ll have people talk about their experiences abroad, as well as show all kinds of pictures and maybe even little events. I’m supposed to do something there for an hour each day too (the festival lasts three days - Saturday through Monday), so I’m a little nervous! I’m sure it’ll still be fun though. It really is just like a big festival that might happen anywhere, but they’re sponsored by the schools here… it’s interesting and a new experience. That’s why I wanted to stay here over the weekend instead of go away like so many others. Maybe if I hadn’t gone to Tokyo when I first got here I’d want to go somewhere, but I’m content experiencing this right now… From what I can see, there’ll be plenty of time for traveling during winter break and the spring when Japanese students are on vacation, and this is a precious opportunity that otherwise I couldn’t help but miss not having been brought up through the Japanese school system.
Notice I mentioned “when Japanese students are on vacation”… The reason I did so is because in the large part of my time here, I find myself hanging out and doing various things with Japanese students. I almost feel like I’m avoiding other international students… but I’m not doing it consciously! The Japanese are just so interesting, and as you know, getting to know them is why I came here. At first I saw them during club meetings, parties, maybe a dinner after a party, and of course karaoke… Lately though, it seems like I’m doing some slightly different things. For example, just Wednesday I went out with one girl and an international student who’s in my Japanese class to see a movie - my first time to a movie theater here, and boy it’s a different experience than in America - and afterward to an izakaya for food and drinks. An izakaya is a casual type restaurant here where they offer many selections of food that the group orders as a whole and then generally shares among each other. Food, and even drink, sharing in general is much more common here than in America I’m discovering, and so I suppose it follows that at the common hangout restaurants like izakaya, that’s just the basis of how things are served… Here’s a picture of me and a group of friends at an izakaya. Note this is not just three people like in what I described above that happened on Wednesday. That’s what I’ll be describing next…

This picture was actually taken when a few of us went to an izakaya after participating in the Hisai Matsuri on Sunday. That was some experience, I tell you… We participated in a contest run locally by producers of a popular TV show, and as those of you who know Japanese TV can attest, it was quite interesting… First of all, since we had to be at the location for rehearsal early Sunday morning, I decided to stay with some other of the students in a hotel the night before, since it’s over an hour trip to where we went. Here’s the crew after we completed a late night game of cards in the room…

To give you a little background, the group of people who went on this are part of what they call here a “zemi”, basically a kind of 4th year seminar, but it’s a bit different than how we know ‘em in the US… One of the Japanese girls in the class lives in this city and helped arrange everything for us. This isn’t really the type of thing I thought I’d be doing in a class here… To give you an idea, here’s a picture of us in the rehearsal room having a bit too much fun… The girl in front is the one I mentioned who helped organize the occasion for us.

For the competition, we did a dance to a popular Japanese pop song, but in the end we couldn’t beat out the cute kids we were competing against, and we didn’t win the $1,000 prize… We did, however, win the special prize (a bunch of ramen), and got enough of a score to get a medal too. The celebrity who hosted the show even gave us a nice signed poster. Here’s a picture of all of us afterward with him, another host, and the ramen, as well as one with the smaller prizes.


Beyond that, and back to what I was talking about before, for the first time I really feel like I may be becoming part of a good group of people - those that participated in this. When I first got here I mostly was able to meet first and second year students, people who are interested in talking with foreign students but maybe not necessarily hanging out as much. Lately though as I’ve gotten to know older students - mainly fourth years such as ones from this class as well as a few others I’ve met elsewhere - I feel like I’m really starting to make some good “friends”.
For example, a girl from this class invited me to the Halloween party tonight that they’ve put together, and everyone also invited me and the other international students in the class to join them in their monthly “nomikai”s, the first of which is just a couple weeks away. A nomikai is something that can’t really be translated well into English, but it’s an occasion where people who are part of some group, usually a club or company, go out for drinks (and maybe a bit of food). Those of you who know a bit about Japanese work life and culture might know this kind of thing very well… Anyway, a bit more background is called for I think…
The Japanese students are taking this zemi to kind of follow them through writing their senior thesis, or sotsuron as they call it here. As such, they are all in the same major and have been together for at least the past couple years as they’re finishing up their university studies. It follows then that they’re all quite close, as can be seen easily in such things as them all using nicknames in class, even with the teacher (who by the way participated in the dance this past weekend - you might be able to notice him as one of the older guys in the pictures ^^). Thus, being able to hang out with such a tight group is a nice experience. That said, what I fully feel about it is hard to express because it follows that Japanese sense of belonging… I think as time goes on I’m just becoming more and more Japanese…
Probably part of the reason I haven’t posted much here lately is because instead of just seeing things that I can post random pictures of, most of my experience has been a social one. Sure pictures have been taken, but if you don’t know the people involved, they probably don’t mean as much… As far as I’m concerned, my time with Japanese students (and others) lately has been invaluable. My Japanese speaking skills have improved dramatically in just the two months I’ve been here, with new Japanese I meet sometimes even saying I’m fluent. I know I’m not there yet, but it’s still nice to hear. Also, it’s been a precious time to just learn about people. Sure I hang out with everyone for fun, but I’m also interested in what they think about life… where they’ve been, where they are, where they’re headed. Some things are the same, but some things are very different. I prided myself on knowing a good bit about Japanese society and culture before coming, but actually experiencing it is giving me a depth of understanding I could not possibly have received elsewhere.
On a slightly different subject, something a few of you might be curious to know about since I’ve talked about hanging out with so many Japanese people is whether I have found anyone as a really close friend, or even girlfriend… I mentioned those fourth years I feel I’m getting closer to earlier, but as for the girlfriend, it’s something hard not to think about around here, because it seems whenever I go out with Japanese people, guys or girls, especially if sake is involved, they always ask if I’ve found a Japanese girlfriend yet, and when I tell them no they generally answer either “Why not?” or “Oh I’m sure you will soon”, as if it’s somehow assumed. In fact, just this past week my best guy friend, who’s Canadian and lives in my dorm, started dating a Japanese girl. I’m sure that’s the type of reason they think it’s so common. But yeah, nothing for me yet, just a lot of friends :) But we’ll see if things are the same after the party tonight… ;) There is this one girl…
Geez, has it been only two months? In some ways that seems like a long time, but in other ways it does seem all too short as well. One thing I can say is that in the next two months, not even to mention the next seven, if I have a wealth of experience anything like I’ve had in these two months, I won’t ever be able to deny I haven’t tried to live my life. I wonder - how could the future possibly measure up? To me though, right now, the possibilities are beginning to seem endless. I already have experienced more things - fun times, interesting observations, just personal and shared feelings… - than I could possibly write down in something like this. Maybe some day we’ll be able to really talk about them, but for now, I’ll keep moving along, and I hope you will too. :)



































